Writing Sex Scenes - 6 Female Archetypes

Writing Sex Scenes – Part Three – 6 Female Archetypes


Writers Write is your one-stop resource for writers. In this post, we talk about writing sex scenes using 6 female archetypes.

Let’s talk about sex, baby – Part Three

In Part One, I introduced the concept of writing a sex scene. In Part Two, I dealt with male archetypes and patterns of sexual behaviour. This week, I am writing about the female of the species.

Over the last two weeks I have seen comments about these posts, the most frequent being “my characters are nothing like this”. Well, that is a good thing. These are extreme archetypes. Your characters will be stereotypical if they are like this. As I mentioned before, your characters will have a combination of these traits, and many more. No one is alike.

Also, remember that damaged people create conflict and offer great opportunities for growth. Sex is base and primal. The way a character acts on this level will sometimes tell us more about who, or what, they are, than at any other time. They are, if you will pardon the pun, laid bare. (Sorry, couldn’t resist.)

Create a similar profile for your character, even if you do not plan to have a sex scene in your book. What was their first time like? What were the circumstances? How did it influence her attitude towards sex? As I said how they react on this primal level will tell you a great deal. Have fun with your sex scenes, whether it is between sheets or between the pages. Hehe.

(Remember: This is a cheat sheet for behavioural patterns. Feel free to disagree. There is no scientific basis for these definitions. They are a fun result of observation.)

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Mia Botha by Mia Botha

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