Between You And Me


  1. It is always correct to say ‘between you and me’.
  2. It is always incorrect to say ‘between you and I’.

Why? 

A preposition such as between must be followed by an objective pronoun (such as me, him, her, and us) rather than a subjective pronoun (such as I, he, she, and we). If you say ‘between you and I’ you are saying ‘between him and she’, or ‘between we’. This is clearly incorrect.

Why do people make this mistake? 

They know it is wrong to say ‘Sarah and me love going out’. They know it is correct to say ‘Sarah and I love going out’. Most people think the words ‘and me’ should be replaced by ‘and I’ in all cases.

The correct expression is always ‘between you and me’, as in this sentence: ‘It’s a bit silly, between you and me.’

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by Amanda Patterson

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  1. Debby Hanoka

    My mother, as a high school student, learned this lesson the hard way. On an English exam, she wrote “between you an I,” thinking it was grammatically correct. That one mistake earned her a B on the exam instead of an A. She remembered that one point of grammar — and drilled it into me when I was a student — until the day she died.

    When someone in casual conversation makes that mistake, I laugh and say, “Let me tell you a story…”

    Thank you for an informative post, and for helping me remember my mother in a very funny way.

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